Many of us start the new year by making some promises to ourselves. (Many people call them resolutions, but as longtime readers know, I prefer to set goals.) One of the more common goals people make, after the excesses of holiday food and drink, is to live a healthier and more active lifestyle. But many of us struggle to make and keep realistic fitness goals over the course of the year.
Why do so many of us flounder when it comes to this? For many of us, it’s the fact that we’re trying to go it solo. When you pursue your goals alone, it can feel as though the whole world is against you!
This is especially true for those of us with families of our own. It’s hard to drag yourself in the morning, before sunrise, so you can squeeze in a workout before everyone heads off to school and work. It’s hard to cook healthy, homemade meals when everyone is crunched for time. Between work and school and the kids’ extracurriculars, it’s so much easier to eat takeout or processed food. And doing otherwise requires conscious effort and careful planning.
With a little creative reframing of the problem, though, you can turn this liability into your secret weapon. The whole family can reap the benefits of your efforts and your choices to live a healthier, more active lifestyle. Because the secret to setting realistic fitness goals, AND KEEPING THEM, is to make it a priority not just for you, but for your whole family!
You know the drill: Mama ALWAYS gets the short end of the stick. Mama’s wants and needs always come last. So by reframing your personal fitness quest into a family project, you can shift it from lowest priority to the top rung. Not only will you be teaching your kids valuable lessons for life, but you’ll make sure you accomplish your own personal fitness and healthy-eating goals.
Ready to learn more? Then read on!
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The Secret of Realistic Fitness Goals: Get Your Family Involved
Find things you can do together
The great thing about attacking your health and fitness goals as a family is that there are so many great activities that you can enjoy together:
- You can do some calisthenic exercises during commercial breaks while watching TV together (here are some great ad break exercises for the whole family).
- You can get a pool membership and swim together at least weekly. Or ice-skating lessons. Or even regular trips to your local roller-skating rink.
- You can do yoga together, either via family classes or videos at home. Essie and I did some Mama-and-Me yoga classes when she was too young for preschool; to this day, she loves practicing yoga with her kids’ yoga DVDs in our basement.
- You can head out on a bike ride together. Biking is our family’s personal favorite. My husband and I both love distance cycling, and he’s already taken the girls on their first 7-mile charity ride (which was one mile more than Essie was years old at the time!).
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- You can take family hikes together, at least once a month. This gives the family the added mental health benefits that come with spending quality time in nature.
- Still got little ones in strollers? Look for a moms’ stroller workout club or class near you. They DO exist, and it’s a great chance to bond with other mamas while setting a good example for your kiddo(s) of an active lifestyle.
- You can form a family team for a local rec program, or participate as a family team in a charity event. Although my husband and girls didn’t raise additional dollars for the charity ride they did beyond their registration fees, he and I have both done longer charity bike rides on our own. When they’re older, I hope we can do one as a family. If cycling’s not your thing, there is always a 5K or 10K charity walk or run.
- Or you can simply resolve to go for at least one long walk through your neighborhood every week.
WHAT you choose isn’t important. The point is spending time together, having fun, and getting some exercise while you’re at it.
The shift from “family” to “team”
The great thing about pursuing a shared goal together as a family is that it makes you into a team. If you’ve worked for a large company, no doubt you’ve done “team-building” workshops, exercises, and even retreats at some point – right? The idea behind pursuing fitness goals as a family is the same. Try to go it totally alone, and you’ll be spending all of that time away from your family – and we know how well THAT often works out as a busy parent.
I’m not saying you can’t do your own workouts. I’m hoping to do my fourth century ride this year, health and training permitting. This will mean lots of early-morning bike rides where my hubby watches the girls. But I also like to bike with them when I can, as does my husband (who biked around the neighborhood with them last week on New Year’s Day). He patiently did the same with me when we first started dating; the most I’d biked at once before then was 20 miles, and our first 26-mile ride together (once I worked up to that) darn near killed me.
But he was patient with my slow pace, and celebrated my achievements, and helped me set ever-more ambitious goals. The first time I set out to do a metric century, my mama thought I was nuts (and never would make it). But he and I both knew I could – and we did – together. Now that our girls are old enough to pedal, we love to share our passion for cycling (and, in my case, yoga) with them.
Want to take it one step further? Get your family team uniforms! Pick whatever suits your family’s fitness passion – Tshirts for your family charity walk/run, custom soccer uniforms, family cycling jerseys. Custom-printed family uniforms for your fitness pursuits will help you to feel (and look!) even more like a team. Let’s face it: Teams pull together, teams have one another’s backs, teams support and coach each other. In other words, the qualities that make a strong team also make a strong family unit!
Everyone benefits from healthier eating
And if your personal health goals for the New Year include healthier eating, this will work a lot better if it’s a family priority vs. just something you try to do on your own. Many parents already agonize over whether their kids are getting enough of the healthy veggies and fruits that they need to stay fit and healthy for life. The great thing about starting off on a health kick together is that it doesn’t give them an easy out.
Everyone in your family benefits from healthy eating. So start your day (and your kids’) with From a healthy breakfast, one rich in complex carbohydrates to see them through the day. And end it together with a healthy home-cooked meal, even if it’s from the freezer or your crock pot or insta-pot. When everyone at the table gets to enjoy the same delicious and nutritious meal, nobody has to miss out.
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And while you’re at it, I encourage you to take it one step further. If you’re not a great cook, you and your kids can learn together. (Our church started a cooking club for this very purpose, and the girls have each completed the appropriate cooking badge for their appropriate level of Girl Scouts, so they could expand their skills further.) I taught them to do simple things like use the toaster and steam vegetables in the microwave when they were preschoolers. At nine and not-quite-seven, they can prepare healthy breakfasts and lunches for themselves (or the family) unassisted. And they love to help us cook dinner as competent sous-chefs, when homework permits.
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You encourage and inspire each other
Perhaps the most compelling reason to get the whole family on a health kick together is that it encourages you to inspire one another, and lend encouragement and support when it all seems too hard. This is the same reason that experts encourage people who are serious about their workouts to get a “gym buddy” or running partner. It’s easier to get out of bed if you know someone is waiting for you.
Well, the same goes for your family team. It’s harder to miss a workout when you’ve scheduled it as a family event – hike, walk, swim, yoga, bike ride, whatever. You know you always pull through for your kids. So if you make them part of your fitness equation, you’ll find that your fitness goals are more likely to happen.If you make your family a part of your fitness equation, you'll find that your fitness goals are more likely to happen. Click To Tweet
As you start to notice the loss of belly fat and the healthy glow in your family members, you’ll also start to see it in yourself. Moreover, your family will help to keep you on the straight and narrow, as well as joining you in celebration when you smash your goals to pieces!
And most importantly, you’ll be giving them one of the most precious gifts a parent can give a child: the gift of lifelong healthy habits, which will improve their own quality of life for years to come.
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19 thoughts on “The Secret of Realistic Fitness Goals”
This is great. I know I am really excited about finally being able to go to the gym with my daughter this year. I think it will be good for us and our fitness.
This is true! I totally Agree with you Flossie! Everyone needs to get involved in a healthier lifestyle. I started to workout last year in August and made it a priority for my life, but in order to be able to make it to the gym three times per week, I needed a little help of my family!
This is perfectly timed, as I am just on a keep fit mission. We have countryside on our doorstep, but the weather is too cold to go on major treks at the moment xx
This is a great idea for both parents and kids. I don’t workout as much as I want to, but I like the idea of going to the gym with my girlfriends.(not a parent myself)
I completely agree that eating healthy as a family and doing excursive activities together makes it easier to stick to fitness goals. It’s also nice just to bond with family doing active activities 🙂
I have to agree that it’s so very important to set realistic goals when it comes to your fitness (or any life goals too).
I love the fact that you emphasize that the secret to achieving fitness goals is integrating our loved ones. In fact, I feel pretty much any goal is easier to achieve AND more fun when we bring along people that care and matter. Makes celebrating the wins even more meaningful.
P.S Kimmie’s cut-proof gloves look cool…
It is always keeping with your goals. I have found that the easiest is when you make/do them from something that you love. I can only imagine that sometimes it is a challenge, to be a mom and do it all.
I love hearing your perspective and the idea of family goals. I don’t have a family yet, but I have found creating weekly and monthly, as opposed to annual goals, much easier for me to stick to. 🙂
Fitness goals can be some of the hardest to stick to. I love the idea of making the goals together as a whole family to hold each other accountable.
Being more active is definitely one of my goals this year! Thank you for all of the tips!
Wow This is a great! sounds like we can do some fitness goals with family, I don’t have a family yet but I’ am so struggling to achieve my body fitness goals because of my working schedule 🙁
I enjoyed reading this and I agree that a family should have fitness goals. I like the idea of having a hike once a month. I might arrange that for the family this year. My husband got sick recently and he also vowed he’ll start eating vegetables. He is a big carnivore and dread veggies but since being sick, he’s determined to fix that and suck it up and eat veggies once and for all.
I love this! My oldest son and I exercise together by riding our bikes to kindergarten most days. We are also looking at a preschool for my youngest for next year that’s in the neighborhood so we could bike to his, too. Once the weather warms up just a big (65 is too cold for me outside for long) we are going to start exploring a bunch of the parks in the area. I agree, it definitely helps to do partner/family exercise!
This is something I struggled with for a long time! Finally I have realistic expectations in place and I am happy with my results!
I think it’s so important to include the whole family! I’ve never been able to stick to healthy eating because I would always fall off having to cook something different for my family.
This is such a great post and a good way to include the whole family. Thanks so much for sharing these great tips!
I believe that making fitness a family affair is a really great way to get active. Fitness goals definitely don’t always mean going to the gym and finishing a gruelling workout, I myself enjoy getting outside for a good hike, going skating or swimming and just being active.
I agree with you about the “Fitness Goals”. Exercising makes the body pump more blood to the muscles. This will increases the blood flow, which is beneficial for your brain.